What do we say when we don't know what to say? We have good intentions of encouraging our loved ones,
but we have no idea how to do so. Encouragement can feel obligatory on the sending end and inauthentic on the receiving end. And that FEELS BAD for both parties.
We have all been there. Someone dies unexpectedly. Someone receives a terrible diagnosis.
A divorce comes out of nowhere. A tragic accident. Our partner says something cruel or doesn't
meet our emotional needs. A friend is struggling with infertility or has a miscarriage.
Our friend is venting about a difficult situation.
Here are some tips for what to say and what not to say:
Don't do/say this:
Encouragement should feel good for the giver and the recipient.
It takes practice on BOTH ends to make it work.
At times, we are simply in too much pain to receive any encouragement and that is okay.
Other times, we as givers are not in the best mental head space and must take care of ourselves
before we can expend energy dolling out encouragement to friends or family members.
In those situations, communication is key. Boundaries are vital. And reassurance that your person
is important to you is paramount.
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Please support my fellow hope*writers by reading their works inspired by the prompt word ENCOURAGE:
4 Ways to Encourage Yourself in the Lord by Sharla Hallett
Simple Is Better – Never Underestimate the Power of Encouragement by Dianne Vielhuber
Encouragement to Bloom by Lisa Crowder
How Can Parents Encourage Emotional Development? By Ashley Olivine